One Child is Actually The Hardest. Go Figure!

Posted on July 19, 2017 by Amy Goller | 0 comments

Now that I'm a mother of 3 children I've worked something out and it actually makes no sense at all.

Having one baby is actually the hardest.

Mothers of one are reading this and shaking their heads.. I know how you look at mothers of multiple children.. you wonder how do they do it? You can clearly see that they have a newborn yet they still run around going to soccer practice, doctors appointments and cooking big dinners while you with one newborn baby are proud of yourself for just washing your hair and getting out the house that day. They are throwing birthday parties for the older children while you barely attended a coffee date on time. But believe it or not.. one child truely is the hardest and I'll tell you why.

You have no idea what you are doing:
Well here's a secret, neither do we! Yes we've done it before but by the time we get to our third we have made peace with the fact that we have N.F.I. We somehow fumble our way through without any aim of perfection but rather with just the aim of doing it.

We don't sweat the small stuff:
You know why? We don't notice it.

Your one child is your whole world:
Our worlds are chaotic, we run around from drop off to pick up barely finding a minute to breathe never mind focus on any one of our "worlds".

We don't play (very much) with our children:
I remember sitting on the playmat with my first bub for hours. We built blocks, sung Incy Wincy Spider together and looked at picture books together. I haven't done that for either of my subsequent babies.
My 5 year taught her younger sister how to spell her name, her colours and sung nursery rhymes to her. Yes I taught the first one but now I'm done. I have passed on the "teaching" baton. My baby will learn from her big sisters and I'm fine with that.
Lets just hope they know their stuff!

Routine is not as important to us.
I know routine is important, I'm a sleep consultant - of course it is!
But there's not much I can do about it. My daughters have to get to school, I can't worry about the babies morning nap. She has to just come along and sleep where and when she can.

I've stopped researching:
Before I had my first, I researched everything! Best pram, which suncream to use, Baby Led Weaning, which sippy cup promotes independence, and admittedly .. I once googled newborn poo. What To Expect When You're Expecting was my go-to reference book next to my bed. And you know what...? It doesn't actually help! Now I don't sit around dreading the next sleep regression or developmental stage but rather deal with each stage as it comes and know how quickly it will all pass.

We are already exhausted.
You live in hope of your baby sleeping through... we with multiple children know that there's always something and are used to sleepless nights and use coffee (and/or wine) to help us deal with that exhaustion. The exhaustion is new to you and hits you like a hurricane. We are used to ear aches, nightmares, wet beds and gastro through the night so our expectations are lower and like our babies are good at utilising the time we can get some sleep and take it where we can.

So I take my hat off to all you mums just learning the ropes. Oh and please give yourself a break - you are doing a fab job!
Bec xx 
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Just Keep Swimming, Just Keep Swimming.........

Posted on October 27, 2016 by Amy Goller | 0 comments

Whoever said that being a parent was easy must have been a husband/fiancè/boyfriend etc  that slept through every single night feed and nappy change. Assholes.

 Being a First Time Mum is Hard Blog

I love being a mum, it really is the most rewarding, challenging, exhausting, exciting and overwhelming job IN THE WORLD! However, there are times where I feel I just can’t adult and want to go out, get white girl wasted on Mojitos and Caprioscas, come home and sleep until 3pm the next day. I am sure I COULD do that, but good luck trying to look after a baby with a massive hangover. To be honest, I have not felt the urge to do that as yet but the Mojios do sound pretty bloody good don’t they?


I have found myself lately becoming quite irritated and frustrated (more so because I’m so fricken’ tired) but everything is really getting to me. Not only are we trying to plan a wedding (well this was overseas but plans change) and a christening, but we also need to look for a house to buy. Add a lack of sleep to that and this chick has resting bitch face turning into actual bitch face.

I’ve always suffered from anxiety quite bad and have learnt to deal with it without medication but these past few weeks have really gotten to me. I’m so incredibly lucky to have such a supportive yoncè that is very patient and helps out when he can. Yes, I’ve cried. I’ve cried to the point where my eyes have been so puffy I look like I’ve had an allergic reaction to something, I’ve cried so much that I’ve stayed in the shower, sitting on the floor, for over 40 minutes (at least I saved on tissues, snot right down the drain). Now don’t get me wrong, I have the most amazing baby (apart from the shitty leaps they go through). She is really cruisy and just goes with the flow which is awesome, but those times that she can’t be settled or just won’t sleep, it hits me hard. Is it because I can’t help her? Is it because I’ve had enough? Is it because I feel like I’m failing? I don’t actually know. All I know, is that sometimes I just can’t even (insert hair flick here).


I am home with her all day and I have learnt what is best for her (and me) and we have this game plan going but at times, the game is changed and I want to be put on the bench. I know I can do this. I know I am a great mum, no wait, I am a bloody awesome mum and I can get through whatever this parenting gig throws at me.

You just have to have an amazing group of people around you to support every decision you make (regardless how shitty is may be), be there for you when you feel like you are not cut out for this parenting thing and lift you up, tell you, you are doing an amazing job as a mum and how proud they are of you. You need that. It is so important.

 Being a first time mum is hard Blog

I AM an amazing mum.

I AM my daughter’s best friend.

I AM doing the best I can do. 

I AM bloody awesome.


Krystle Bridges xx


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