You may remember my story here (http://mytinywardrobe.com.au/blogs/my-tiny-wardrobe-blog-press/56439941-battlefield-in-the-bedroom-kids-clothes) about my little Miss’ getting dressed tantrums from 6 months ago. Well she’s three now and things have, well how should I put this, changed! Evolved. She is still quite a fusspot, and every day is different. Allow me to elaborate with some of our day to day stories.
She likes ALL PLAIN clothes, the daggier the better. Paint stains - no worries! Some days she’s head to toe in plain purple!
Plain with a pocket the same colour is apparently NOT plain!
New plain t-shirt? “Oh no I don't like new clothes.” (Mum must wash all the new clothes – um was I supposed to be doing this already?)
We used to be able to get away with “dresses are for parties”, but no more! So her dad tried reverse psychology “This dress is a size 3, so you’re not allowed to wear it until you’re 3”. She wore a dress on her 3rd birthday for about half an hour.
Chooses it at the shops herself - great! Won't wear it.
Wears in once! OMG it's a miracle - she's getting better! Will never wear it again.
Me: Will you wear something new today if I get out a NEW tub of play-dough for you to play with?
Her: Yes. (works sometimes)
"Maybe I'll wear this one with ice creams on it because I want an ice cream today"
“I'll wear all my fishy clothes when I go to the beach with Nanna.” (This includes PJs, leggings, shorts, t-shirts)
“If I wear this t-shirt with flowers it will help me learn to say the word ‘fowler’” – (you can't make this stuff up!!)
“I want those orange socks, not THOSE orange socks.” Devastated when her favourite orange socks are in the wash.
She had a ‘Ben & Holly’ themed birthday party and we got her a holly t-shirt with the compromise that she got to choose what she wore on the bottom half. She came out in leggings on a 39 degree day!
Her: I want to wear spots like you mum. Where are my pants with spots?
Me: They were too small so we gave them to the op shop.
But here she is, our gorgeous girl. She actually likes tutus some days, but only with – you guessed it, a plain t-shirt.
Guest Blogger Lauren Hunt
Oh how I miss the days when I could buy gorgeous little matching outfits and dress my baby girl in whatever I wanted...but that was back before she had an opinion and learnt that she could protest certain items of clothing if she didn't want to wear them.
I remember it all changing around about the time she turned two - we were looking for a cute little birthday party outfit for her, and came home with a blue T-shirt (sequins on the shoulders I might add) and fluro pink shorts (from good old Target).
For quite a few months after that, Miss M insisted on only wearing clothes she had worn before, she liked her old daggy, comfy pants and tops. Anything new was off limits - so I quickly learnt not to waste my money on expensive items but stick to cheapy stuff that didn't matter if she refused to wear it. Oh and tags MUST be cut off!
Next I tried letting her choose items at the shop to see if that would make a difference - because as all us mums know, the time when they need new clothes rolls around rather quickly. They've either been washed too many times and turn a dull grey colour, don't fit any more or are for the wrong season. I was lulled into a false sense of security spending up at Big W - but did she wear any of the things she chose? No!
These days her issues seem to have evolved - that it isn't the clothing she has an issue with, but getting dressed full stop. We've tried everything; letting her choose, daddy doing it before he goes to work, breakfast first/after, and many more strategies. She procrastinates, she has to sort out her dolly, or get a specific toy, she'll try every avoidance tactic in the book. Some warm days she'll insist on wearing long sleeves, wont wear a jacket on cold days, and the other day she insisted on wearing her favourite seahorse PJ top to go out with her Namna... It can be very stressful on mornings when we have to be out the door for work and child care by 7:30!
So my little girl isn't a fashionista, nor does she love dresses and tutus but that's ok. She'll evolve and find her own style I'm sure. I really had to make a conscious effort to let things go - and pick my battles. What really matters? Being clothed? Yes. Coordinating tops & pants? Not so much. Socks & shoes on a hot day? Not ideal but she'll learn to tell me if she gets hot.
In the mean time I'm having a baby boy in 3 months who I can start shopping for!! I've started collecting some cute bonds zippy's!
Can you relate to our story? And tactics that have worked for you?
Mummy/teacher blogger from Adelaide, SA