Dishes in the sink, a load of washing to hang up and another sitting in the basket. Sheets to change, school run pending, some (never all) of the errands ticked off of the never ending to-do-list and dinner to decide on, shop for, and will into their bodies, yet again.
And most mothers will immediately identify with my present tense, right? Empathy. It’s powerful. Hence my ‘yes’ to writing this guest blog for Amy of My Tiny Wardrobe. She’s a mum, I’m a mum. She’s having a go at kicking a few personal goals, so am I. She wants to encourage other mums in this - their parenthood, so do I. Heart and soul …SO DO I!!
Because, by observation of humanity and, of this humanitarian heart of mine, the words of Abraham Lincoln:
“Teach the children, so it will not be necessary to teach the adults”, rings louder than ever in my thinking and as a strategy for changing this hurting world.
I am a School Teacher by profession. My choosing this career path had, at its core, to do with:
1. My wanting to help people (….and knowing that people are best helped when they can help themselves. I chose a degree in education), and;
2. My wanting to one day have kids and be the best mum that I could be (…and knowing that a parent is a child’s first teacher. I chose a degree in education).
Now I’m not a professional parent. There is no such thing. And even if there were, with only a seven and a five year old to my name I wouldn't qualify anyway. One would need a range of personalities in a troupe of sons and daughters who have all grown up to be successful - healthy in mind, body, spirit and purpose - adults to even qualify for such a thing. Tough gig!
What I am, however, is a lover of life, truth and purpose, a teacher, a wife, a mother, and a dreamer of a kinder world. It’s what I’ve written the soon to be published children’s book series – Lilly Grace’s Conversation – from, it’s what I run the @lillygracesconversation instagram account from and it’s why I’ve bothered with either. The instagram account shows my love of wisdom and quotes. Let me share a couple of favourites with you….
#1. “It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.” Joyce Maynard.
Powerful right? Gets me working for clarity in my thinking and, chipping away at a thought through dream. Today, may it inspire you sweet parent. May you dare to dream for your own life, not just your child’s. And may your capacity find new stretch as you introduce as little as five minutes a day to work towards something within your step-by-step reach.
#2. “Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” Robert Fulghum.
Convicting right? Gets me assessing my attitude and time usage …and phone usage …and patience. Today, may it encourage you sweet parent. May you be your best self. And may you smile past the ten times you asked your child to brush his teeth or tidy her room or get in the car; knowing that who you are is sharper than what you say.
And on that note …I may have to throw in just one more quote:
(Bonus) #3. “Taking care of you means the people in your life will receive the best of you, rather than what’s left of you.” Carl Bryan.
So take care of you. Get the early night once in a while. Leave the dishes and watch your favourite TV show once in a while. Go to the movies with your girl friends once in a while. Read a novel. Have a glass of wine …and a bubble bath. Paint your nails. Get your hair done. Swim in the ocean. Eat ice-cream. Exercise. And then eat more ice-cream …because you can (wink). Stare at the sunset. Laugh. Fill your figurative soul cup to overflowing and let it drip on to those you love dearly and all too often guilt trip over not showing them in ways your heart desires because your tired humanity, all too often, fails you.
Take care of you. And I’ll take care of me. And may we together raise a generation of world changers. Heaven knows this earth needs us to.
Love & Empathy,
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